On the surface it was to get the kids together but we quickly realized her goal was to create a way for stay-at-home moms to have some socialization. Over time, and with the advent of our kids starting to school, I made friends.
One of those women is now the most dear friend ever and there are a few others I count as sisters. There is no magic answer to making friends. Get out of the house — start a play group at church — join a women's fitness center — volunteer at the library. God has a friend waiting to meet you! Hey Ashley I think you can see from Jane's comments that it is definately worth the effort to reach out to other women because making the time to do so will give you long lasting and meaningful friendships…you just have to make it through that awkward beginning!
You can do it — make that first move, there are other women out there who are longing for friendships too! Big Hug! I just find it tiring when I try and try to initiate things and it may work out to getogether but then after there is no more get togethers unless I initiate again. I get tired and discouraged from initiating. I get tired of trying to fit into already formed groups. I just keep reminding myself that God loves me and somehow somewhere it may get better or I will continue lonely.
Hey Karen — I understand… it's like your words are coming right out of my mouth! I have always seemed to be the initiator and at some point I just realized that's part of how God made me and I just needed to keep at it. Also — sometimes people just don't "click" and that's ok. When you do get together with others pray and ask God to reveal who is seeking relationship, has commonalities with you and look for subtle hints.
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You are wise to turn to God for His acceptance and love. But you are not alone in your frustration! I will join with you in prayer that God will fill the gaps until he helps you find true "sista friend" relationships with other lonely moms! You might try starting a small book club — there are only 4 of us and just knowing once a month, on my calendar I have that time together to look forward to and we have shared deeply and richly and though we do not get together frequently we have formed rich relationships because of our monthly conversations!
Oh and one final hint…always be on the look out for new people moving to your community — they will be doubly blessed by your outreached hand of friendship! There are a few that my boys played baseball with for a few years I was the team mom, my hubby was the coach.
Those positions instantly put you in the role of approaching people, and we made lasting friendships from those times, but not really DEEP friendships. Last year about this time, some families we played ball with for 5 and 6 seasons stabbed us in the back and put a great big hole in our hearts and a huge defensive wall up, too. But it never happened. I have a hard time finding true and lasting friendships that are deep and meaningful.
But several years ago I met a girl at my church and she was so friendly. One day I asked how I could pray for her. Then she started doing that with me. We went out to eat and decided we wanted to be accountable to each other. We ended up starting a Bible study together. Then we attended Bible study at church. We meet off and on for fun and Bible study. Times have changed now that I have young babies, but she is my true Sister in Christ.
Loved this, Tracey! Sometimes it is hard to find the time to even be intentional… but it's worth it! I enjoyed our blogger's gathering on the cruise last week — thank you for putting it together. It was nice to meet you face-to-face! Military wife here!
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This is something I have struggled with and have been working on for the past month. Wonderful read. Great blog. I am relatively new to a much smaller area than where I moved from. Lots of change in that move: was a career wife, now I am a stay at home mom and wife, moved from Sunny Florida to not so sunny Whitefish MT. Had a group of girlfriends and family to connect with in FL. Been a very tough transition for me, let alone the weather, but the relationship building too.
I really enjoy being a mom to a precious 10 month old, but I have used her schedule and all the work behind that schedule to avoid the work involved in forming relationships. I have had a lot of failed attempts and it is always hard to try again. Tracey, I am reading your book Be the Mom right now and the Martyr Mom trap has hit me square in the face, but my self-pity is in not having any friends.
This struggle has truly been an obstacle that I have not been able to get over. There is a MOPS group that starts on Sept 27, so I am going to give that a try, but when the time comes it will be hard to go. Anyways…hate to be an Eeyore, but man this struggle is kicking me in the shins.
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She hails from a small town in Georgia where she lives with her family in a red tin roofed house with just ONE bathroom mind you on a farm - with tons of animals of course. One day, due to her sheer aversion to shoes and her immense lov Consider that the other little girl always hears "no" as the first responds at home.
I would suggest to simply encourage your little girl to try to make friends with another little girl. However, do watch her carefully that she does not withdraw from children of her own age. And please, please do not be alarmed when she makes friends with a little girl who does not meet your standards. Every child needs a friend, even when we do not meet the expectations of the "beautiful and popular children" and their parents.
Please keep us up-to-date how your pretty little girl is doing in school. I can tell you are very proud of your baby girl as you should be. Happy parenting. I worried about this with my older children when they went to school. I told them what my Dad told me, "you will be able to count your true friends on one hand. They have found out that this statement is true. You just have to point that out to your children. In the end, you will be the better person. I think most kids get it and overcome the "brats" in their classrooms.
Oh who cares… honestly.. Kids will either make friends or they will be loners. The world needs both kinds of people and unless your kid is being picked on not having a plethora of friends is NOT the end of the danged world. Get a grip people. OMG, this is my biggest fear! My husband and I are both major introverts; even though my parents socialized me early and well, shyness and social anxiety have always been a challenge for me, and I wonder if my child will have the same issues.
My girl has never had a problem in her class, but with older kids its a different story no 10 year old boy crazy girl wants to hang out with a 6 year old I had to try to explain delicately to her what was going on without her running and pretending to like the same things! My DD is a little shy, but she does make friends, not super fast, but at least not painfully slow. It worked! She got to play with all the kids, it took her 2 days to work up the courage, but she did it! We believe that health information should be free to everyone and we rely on advertising to make this possible on our family of websites: Healthline, Medical News Today, Greatist, and Everyday Family.
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